The study's authors sifted through decades of research about what makes people romantically compatible."It is very very difficult, if not impossible, to predict initial chemistry using variables assessed before two people meet each other," said study co-author Paul Eastwick, an assistant professor at the University of Texas at Austin."The algorithms are not scientifically valid and are extremely unlikely to generate compatible matches."In other words, matchmaking sites simply can't account for how two people will get along in person — chemistry, if you will.And, as it turns out, what we find attractive in a profile doesn't sync up with what we go for in the real world."People have elaborate laundry lists of qualities they think they want in a partner, and they like online dating profiles that fit this laundry list," Eastwick said."However, upon a face-to-face meeting, most of this list goes out the window — people instead rely on their gut-level reaction to another person."The other problem, according to the research, is the emphasis placed on clients' similarities."To be sure, similarity on some dimensions, like race and religion, does predict relationship well-being," two of the study's co-authors wrote in The New York Times."However, the vast majority of people mate with demographically similar partners anyway, so such findings aren't especially useful in helping dating sites narrow a client's pool of potential partners."The Times piece goes on to say, "None of this suggests that online dating is any worse a method of meeting potential romantic partners than meeting in a bar or on the subway.He claimed to be a high flier in a major American toy firm, but then managed to convince her to give him £200 for medical treatment, encouraging her to take out credit cards.“Getting sucked into this made me feel really stupid,” Aileen said.“My daughters said online dating wasn’t good for me anymore, so I started looking for alternatives.” Aileen then came across Searchmate, a bespoke dating service which featured on the first series of Channel 4's The Undateables.It claims to offer a “safer and more credible alternative” to dating websites.The site explained that this was down to most of the gentlemen who were active within her area “going on hold”, meaning they could no longer be contacted.
The scams are easy enough to dodge — all it takes is 15 minutes.
For starters, plug their emails into a search engine."The bad guys do not reinvent the wheel," he said. It's how much money can we make, so how little can we put out?
"Scammers can counterfeit anything from dating site profiles to photos, email addresses, even seemingly official documents.
Aileen was promised support from Searchmate’s highly experienced team of matchmakers, and a guaranteed minimum of 15 recommendations.
Online dating scams: new tricks that fleece victims of an average '£9,589' But in November last year, Aileen felt a growing sense of disappointment as five months had passed and she had yet to meet any men.